Why I Set Goals For My Son For 2023

When my son was a child, we relied on the special education system to provide the opportunities and resources for his continued growth and development. By law, this system required that measurable goals be developed annually, and that the goods and services needed to meet those goals also be supplied. As imperfect as that system may have been, I could be assured that my son’s progress was front and center for everyone on the team.

I was surprised and disappointed to learn that, after the age of 21, that goal-directed system is replaced by one in which progress is no longer required or objectively measured for adults with intellectual or developmental disabilities. According to my son’s support coordinator, the belief is that, after age 25, adults with intellectual or developmental disabilities have maxed out their ability to learn.

I couldn’t disagree more. I believe God has a plan for my son, just like He has for all of us. And as a progressive God, I believe His plan for each of us includes His intention that we continue to grow into the best version of ourselves, whatever that may be.

God confirmed this with me recently. He reminded both my husband and me that He has a plan for Myles. Plans that were bigger than what we currently had in place or envisioned for the future. We felt convicted by this challenge from the Lord to think bigger for our son, to develop with God a vision for Myles’ life. We felt compelled to set bigger goals, both short and long term.

In a meeting with Myles’ support coordinator and the director of his day habilitation program, my husband and I shared some of our dreams for Myles as well as the role we hoped the day program would play in partnering with us for Myles’ continued growth. Much to our surprise, the director of the program was excited about our mindset and request. He revealed to us his belief that far too many parents were disengaged - having neither goals nor a vision for their adult children with disabilities. Many were merely looking for others to decide what their children’s futures would look like.

Fortunately, for those of us who are followers of Christ, that doesn’t have to be the case. We have God’s promise for our kids that He has a good plan for each of them; and, we have the wisdom of the Holy Spirit and the grace of God to help us help our kids continue to grow.

My husband and I want Myles to fulfill God’s plan for his life. We want to partner with God, utilizing the resources and wisdom He provides, to help Myles continue to develop into the best version of himself. To continue becoming who God has called him to be, doing the things God has planned for him. That’s why we sought God for His 2023 goals for our son.